to help you to understand each other, it’s a piece of the puzzle.

Rick named these specific Rocks to build on: 1) Intentionally spend time together. There are seasons of life and marriage changes. Kids keep us busy – make sure you take time for each other.

2) He concurred with Lori on the importance of forgiving each other. We often think "poor me"…we can be very selfish. It's a choice you need to make every day to forgive.

3) Find your identity in Christ. It needs to be in Christ. Our identity is not our job, being a friend, a mom or dad, husband or wife. It needs to be in Christ. God helps thoughts, gives understanding of who you are in Christ.

Neil Anderson’s book “Identity Crisis” is a good resource. Your spouse will let you down. All identities will fail except the identity in Christ. You cannot change your spouse, that’s God’s job. Spending time praying for your spouse and allowing God to change you is the way to go.

Neil Anderson has a book “Life as God created it to be.” Neil also has a Freedom in Christ website.

Cards were given to the couples so that they could thank each other and let each other know what they really appreciate about them.